There is a huge difference between insecurity and uncertainty. Uncertainty is a given and insecurity is both uncertainty and an exclusive focus on ourselves.
Uncertainty is never incongruence. It is fuel for learning, even though we have to see it that way. If we are able to dissociate uncertainty from exclusive focus, we succeed in not looking past pain, which is truth. When we don’t look past pain, we instill the capacity to prepare for it. With exclusive focus however, we start to look at our self. With such a move, everything we believe, know and view is either challenged or assuaged. With challenge there arises distress and without it, false promise. That is incongruence.
Taking care of ourselves is always wise though. Without it, we are unable to continue on the path to freedom even though the need to take care of ourselves and an exclusive focus come hand in hand.